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“A writer's ability to materialise love out of thin air is magical.” Why did I just burst into tears. I think you have written out the reason I write. I love you and this piece

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absolutely loved this! there is strength and softness in allowing yourself to love love and all its silliness even after having a difficult time. i'd actually really love to read your muslim rom-com if it ever made its way out of the shadows

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Dec 13, 2022Liked by Haaniyah Angus

read this in the bus omw home and i almost cried in public again

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Dec 13, 2022·edited Dec 13, 2022Liked by Haaniyah Angus

Extraordinary. So moving and you write beautifully

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Dec 13, 2022Liked by Haaniyah Angus

I've always denied the prospect of love because I feel like because of my position in the world, I'd never receive the love I want. A safe, deep love that I could let myself fall into without being scared. I tell people I'm not sure about being married, but I really do want to fall in love. But if I can't find the love I want, it would feel like both a waste and torture. Thank you for this beautiful piece, I needed to remind myself that I adore romance as a genre despite my fears. Your writing is gorgeous and I wish I could read more of it.

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Dec 14, 2022Liked by Haaniyah Angus

Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful and vulnerable piece! It speaks to me, especially now as I navigate my fears around love but melt to romance on the television. Love is truly everywhere but it can get so scary, ahh!! Thank you again xxx

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“Nuance as garnish” oh I’m keeping that! Love reading about other peoples relationships with love (esp romantic love) in hopes that one day my skin won’t crawl if I try to myself. Ahhh to want love and be so so afraid of it

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so so good! <3 it is so scary to let oneself have good old fashion fun with romance and love and dating when we see all good feelings as proportional to eventual heartbreak. but that is life ! thank you for your (once again) eloquent and exquisite words <3

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Dec 14, 2022Liked by Haaniyah Angus

I loved this! I feel so so seen. The pressure from the Muslim community to find "the one" I feel often takes me out of the moment of enjoying my other relationships and my not-so-serious-yet romantic relationships because I'm in my head about finding the right person now while I'm super young. But you're right, it doesn't have to be this way. I, too, turn to romance in media as my comfort and to keep me grounded. I've always loved loved- a crush girl as they say. Love can still be enjoyed even if ur not participating in it and even with your fears! I loved this essay!

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“A writer's ability to materialize love out of thin air is magical.” And your ability to capture the appeal of such an olddd tradition and practice in one line is so awe-inspiring! I've been able to figure out what the appeal of it was for me personally until now! Another amazing piece!

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LOVE THIS KEEP IT GOING

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Dec 18, 2022Liked by Haaniyah Angus

reading this was like a warm blanket over the soul!! subscribed <3

i also write personal musings on my newsletter, FRESH - let me know what you think:

https://www.freshbywing.com/

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i really really loved this <3 thank you for sharing

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“That’s the thing about great films and, ultimately, great screenwriting; it helps uncover parts of yourself that have long been hidden.” ughh I love your writing 🥺

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The internet has destroyed my attention span, but this was such a great read from someone who similarly loves rom-coms whilst simultaneously dismissing and neglecting my relationship with them.

I enjoyed it so much, thanks.

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